Sunday, January 21, 2007

Factors in Determining Child Custody

If you are currently fighting or plan on fighting for custody of your child or children, what factors do you think the court will consider? How do you convince the judge that you you will be a better caretaker than the other parent? Here is a quick list of issues which you will should be able to address:

1. Love

Talk about how you show affection to your child/children, and, if suitable, how other parent does so (or does not)


2. Food preparation and types of food prepared

What are their favorite foods? What do they like? What do they hate? When do they eat? How often do they eat fast food vs food at home? If your spouse fills them with junk food, talk about that.

3. Routine – weekdays and weekends

You should be able to talk about when they get up and go to bed and any inherent difficulties, their involvement in activities outside the home, chores and hygiene routines, etc.


4. Education

What schools have they attended? What are their grades? Show report cards and talk about difficulties they are having, teacher conferences, open houses, etc.

5. Time spent with child or children

In what activities do engage with the children, e.g., reading, park, zoo, TV, etc.

6. Medical care

Who provides insurance for the child? Who are their doctors? Do they have their immunizations? Any particular health issues the child has? If child is on medication, does the other parent ensure child takes it regularly and on time?

7. Dental care

Who is their dentist? Who takes them to appointments? Also discuss records, current state of teeth, future work anticipated (e.g. braces)

8. Religious training

Do the children attend church? Where? How often? Who is their pastor, priest or rabbi? Who takes them to church? Are both parents same religion? Any obstacles to continuing the children in their faith?

9. Communication

Do the children openly communicate with you and/or other parent? Any difficulties in this area?

10. Provisions for child care

Who will watch the children while you are gone? How often are you gone? What are your expenses for child care?

11. Housekeeping

12. Child’s temperament

13. Child’s preferences as to custody and why

The courts usually will give weight to this factor only when the child is over the age of 12. However, it is important to know why the children, even younger ones, prefer one parent over the other. For instance, it can indicate that one parent may be bad-mouthing the other to the children, something to which courts do not take kindly.

14. Home condition and location – accessibility to parks, schools, churches, hospitals

15. Family in the area – grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, godparents

16. Physical description of family residence – rooms, yard, etc.

Remember, this is not just about bashing the other parent - it is about showing that you are an appropriate caregiver yourself. If your child or children have difficulties while in your custody, don't try to hide them from your attorney. Instead, be upfront about the problems so that you and your attorney are prepared to address them with the judge. After all, it is likely the judge will find out about the problems, and you don't want him or her to think that you are in denial about those issues.

Sunday, January 14, 2007

Proof that Amber Alerts Work

A West Point girl was kidnapped but then rescued less than six hours later, thanks to Nebraska's Amber Alert system. Someone seeing or hearing the alert called in a report, leading the State Patrol to the kidnapper and the girl.
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Friday, January 12, 2007

Elkhorn Loses to Omaha

Well, it's a sad day in Elkhorn. The city has lost its battle to prevent Omaha from annexing it. Over 7,000 people that chose not to live in the Big 'O' have had that choice taken from them.



You can read the opinion here.



The part I found most surprising was that Omaha was allowed to create a path to Elkhorn by annexing a bunch of land between the two cities and annex Elkhorn at the same time, as shown here. That just seems wrong.



I'd like to know if any people living in Omaha are bothered by this.





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